I am an oldest child of 6 and a mother of 3 and as such am able to read people well and can see through to the crap. I work very hard to raise my children and support my husband regardless of whether they deserve it or not. I have never gave up on them, walked out on them, or fed them to the wolves. They will grow up knowing that I loved them enough to fight all their battles as needed, kissed all their boo boos, and supported them in all their endeavors, even those that I knew were destined to fail.
As a member of the community, I volunteer my time and resources to help those who need a helping hand. I never turn down a request for help regardless of how tired I may be. I have brought my children along to help so they too can learn the value of helping others and loving strangers. In just the last calendar year, my kids have helped me teach a summer camp for homeless kids, helped unload 300 backpacks for kids, helped new kids assimilate to the schools, helped clean out and rearrange classrooms in the church, etc.
Does this make me a saint? No. But here is where the bullying comes in. As stated in my previous blog, the kids and I chose to stay home for Christmas Day and visit family on other days. We have never spent Christmas at home and this year I believe it is our turn to relax and enjoy our Christmas. The kids are out of school for 2 weeks and I have never seen it etched in stone you have to visit on Christmas. I think this is why we have a song called The 12 days of Christmas.
So my Mother-in-Law makes the comment that I am selfish for not coming out on Christmas Day and in her eyes will always be selfish. I tolerate a lot of random crap from her but being called selfish is not one of them. I am far from selfish. She tries to post that on this public blog but as moderator, it of course was never posted. So in the spirit of keeping things public as this bully prefers, I share this story.
So why is this bully so very entertaining? First of all, she is supposed to be family. Who would try to trash their own family online? Secondly, she is the walking definition of selfish. Her whole life story is a testament to it. And Lastly, What's the purpose? You think because you bad mouth me I'm going to change my mind and bend to your every whim? I don't think so. But it says so much about your character and I don't need that kind of a person around me or my family. I have in the past cut out members of the family for their behavior and I'm not above doing it again.
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. ~Harvey Fierstein
If you are suffering from a bully in your family, here is a helpful site. http://www.positive-personal-growth.com/family-bullies.html
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